Baby Books

Thursday, May 21, 2015

Ohhhhh baby books. Those two little words can conjure up all kinds of emotions, but one emotional constant I've seen when it comes to baby books is guilt, specifically "mommy guilt."


I can't say with confidence I've ever met a mother who has completed baby books for all of her children with equal enthusiasm and attention to detail. Some have purchased the books, some were gifted the books, some have started to fill out the books, and some have plans to buy the books one day...

More notably, I've yet to meet a mother who has joyously logged all of the baby gifts received, all of the baby shower attendees, and so forth.

I've experienced this first-hand. I purchased a beautiful light blue fabric-bound baby book for my son two weeks before he was born. The thought hit me like a freight train: "Oh no, I don't have a baby book!!" What's more, I felt the need to buy one of the nicest options on the market. I promptly brought the book home and placed it on my shelf.

That was three and half years ago.

Recently - probably after having Frozen on a loop in my house - I decided to "let it go" and practice what I preach to my clients. The book had stared me down for years and the guilt laser beam coming from that shelf was all too much. Why was I treating myself like this? Certainly my children wouldn't want this for me. There were times I'd pick up the book to work on it and immediately put it back down. Because. I. Just. Couldn't.

Let's be honest: baby books aren't fun to fill out - it's a chore. If it weren't, completed baby books would be seen in nurseries everywhere. And I'm pretty sure my children aren't going to care about what famous people share their birthday (who thinks of these questions?!).

This issue touches mothers of all generations. No matter your age or the amount of technology at your fingertips, the story is always the same: it's not going to happen.

Yes, documenting the infancy of your children is important and sharing some pictures, stats, and memories of this precious time with my kiddos when they're older is something I look forward to. But the process of collecting this information has got to be easy and enjoyable.

So donate or recycle those untouched baby books once and for all (trust me, it feels great!), and let's explore some workable options:
  • A family blog: This is certainly easier and more enjoyable if you're tech savvy, but I would caution you to think twice about this if you're not sure you can fully commit - otherwise, your blog will die a slow death like the baby books.
  • Digital baby books: like this one, this one (they'll even send you guilt lasers reminders), and this one - but again, think carefully about your habits and the likelihood of completion.
  • Baby email: When your children are born, set up an email address for them and over the years send them photos, notes, stories, etc. Not sure about email? Then write your children a personal note on special occasions and store them until your kids are old enough to appreciate them. I get a card for each child on Christmas, Easter, and their birthdays and write a special note. I love doing this, plus three cards per year per child is manageable for me.
  • Photo albums: When I finally moved on from my son's baby book, I still wanted something tangible from his first days, so I purchased one of those inexpensive "brag books" with 20 or so photo slots and filled it with pictures from the hospital. The project took less than an hour (thanks iPhoto!) and it was fun for me. I did it again for my daughter and both albums are kept out in their rooms so we can relive those special days. If you're looking for something a little fancier though, printed photo albums - from less expensive ChatBooks and MixBooks to more formal lay-flat albums like these from Artifact Uprising and Parabo Press - are always an option.
  • Baby milestone cards and my first year posters: Great alternatives to a traditional baby book. I also love the My Quotable Kid journal - my sister gave my son this journal on his first birthday and we love it! We keep it on his bookshelf so we can easily see it and regularly add to it.
  • A good old fashioned clear box (my faves) with a label (e.g. "Baby Stacey"): Fill it with ultrasound pictures, hospital bracelets, and other keepsakes. Easy peasy! And want to remember baby's first word and other highlights? Jot them down on a notecard and throw it in the box. I'm giving you permission to use index cards instead of homemade shrines for your baby's milestones.
Bottom line: find a method that works for you. The higher the price or the greater the effort does not represent the amount of love you have for your children.

If you have alternative baby book ideas, let me know - I'd love to hear from you!

Finally, here's a quote I keep framed in our nursery - it's a great reminder when mommy guilt starts to get the best of me (click on image to enlarge):


Stay tuned for a similar blog post: kids' artwork!

'Til next time,
Stacey

UPDATE (as of 11/6/15): I recently learned about Chronicle Books. This is another alternative to baby email, but more custom than a greeting card. Their tag line is "Write Now. Read Later. Treasure Forever." Check them out!

UPDATE (as of 1/4/16): I recently learned about Qeepsake. Once a day, Qeepsake texts you a question about your child (e.g. "What makes Stacey smile?") and you text back the answer which is then added to your child's journal. Now that's the kind of journal I can keep up with!

UPDATE (as of 1/28/16): I recently learned about EveryStory. This is a great way to capture the stories behind your pictures - simply record, save, and share!

Birmingham-based professional organizer, Stacey McElrath, helps clients throughout Alabama and the southeast clear clutter and establish customized systems to maintain order in their homes or offices. Contact SHMorganizing today for more information: info@SHMorganizing.com.